So, if you push HARD for protection phase YOU are safely working on yoru life and your children and your school work. While you are enjoying your life your husband wrestles with his conscience and his addictions and just goes through mroe stress...

THIS is the IDEAL... where YOU are minimally affected and HE has the weight of the world on his shoulders and yoru friends are working on him daily...

YOU are not exposed to any of that... that is the ideal... YOU are healthy while he gets more ill by the day...

THAT is what you want to aim for ... THAT is what is going to bring an end to this thing...

YOU can't fight an affair if you are ill... and being exposed to him and his affair will make you ill... i think I lasted about six months before I started to get headaches, back pain, and nausea...

But I didn't protect myself well at all... just steer clear of him and let him get worse... he will do the rignt thing I am confident of it.

Immaturity is stubborn, and he's rife with it right now unfortunately... but the adult in himi is pushing hard to come out, that in my opinion is why he's so ill... The adult in him wants free and he's fighting it.