Maynard - Glad you are feeling okay. I just found proof that the EA is more than likely a PA. This freaking sucks.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
F that. OM has no right to come over. If he steps one foot on your lawn. You tell him to step off or you will call the police. Make sure you have backup with you and your phone in your hand.
One foot. As soon as he does that you call the police.
Your house has suffered enough disrespect. Do not tolerate any more.
P.S. I do not think you will see him at all. But prepare for the worst
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
Shoot, Maynard! I'll be about 30 days behind you on the P90X... Glad to hear from someone else whose done it! Good Luck w/the move stuff, and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! FORE!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
I heard Insanity is good too. I kind of hate traditional exercise, though.
There sure are a lot of differing views on how to handle different sitches here lately. Kind of discouraging when people shoot down my ideas and I try my hardest to see where their opinion comes from.
Me: 26 Ex: 27 Son: 5
Divorced: 3/2010 Each day is another opportunity to do it right.
Everyone has their opinions and EVERY SITCH IS DIFFERENT...a lot of the advice I've taken has possibly not been the best- but the intentions were good, and I weighed my options- I am open to all opinions.
Don't stop giving advice as long as it's coming from a good place.
The best advice I have to give to someone else is to not do what I did- EVERYTHING I DID that was my own idea, was WRONG---I had much better results taking advice from others.
Thanks MINDFULL-- don't know if you've dopne it before, but it's pretty intense I'm looking forward to it again...I was hooked last time- the better shape I got in the more obscessed I became, so be careful- W hated it
There sure are a lot of differing views on how to handle different sitches here lately. Kind of discouraging when people shoot down my ideas and I try my hardest to see where their opinion comes from.
Cautious, don't be discouraged. Keep posting. If someone doesn't agree with your ideas... Don't take it personally. If you need clarification: Ask WHY. I'm sure there are a lot of people that don't agree with my viewpoints. And yes, it's discouraging when you see people making mistakes and suffering when they didn't have to.
It's part of the learning process. Everyone has different experience and is at different levels. You can't force anyone to do anything. They will make their decisions (right or wrong) based on their own perception at the time.
You may find someone saying the same thing as you did earlier, but that person had a different presentation to you. The way they write it resonates better with the thread owner at the time. I've had this happen with me. Don't take it personally.
Remember: The ultimate goal is to help the thread owner.
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
I heard Insanity is good too. I kind of hate traditional exercise, though.
There sure are a lot of differing views on how to handle different sitches here lately. Kind of discouraging when people shoot down my ideas and I try my hardest to see where their opinion comes from.
Well my POV comes from the stance of self respect. OM2 is a piece of chit. And she no longer dictates maynard's life and what he has to suffer. That is now his choice. I made that point to my exwife right at the beginning. No OM on the street even. I even said. "This house has suffered enough disrespect. It will suffer no more." She got the point very clearly as I never said another word afterwards. I just stared in the eyes and then walked away. If he came on the street I would have defended my self respect. A douchebag is a douchebag. No matter what car he drives.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
Alright had a good GAL last night...kinda tired but shot some pool and saw a great movie...sadly the person I was w/ really just reinforced some of my feeling for W...but thats OK too, not like I'm gonna just get over her like that...I was funny, witty, and confident, so that felt pretty good.
Today is my B-day...W was second person to text me...about to run out and play golf so should be a pretty busy day.
Probably will see W later this afternoon, so that will be a bit of a test for me...haven't seen her in 2 wks now I think..,.
Glad to hear from someone else whose done it! Good Luck w/the move stuff, and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! FORE!