Thinking back I really missed not being shown more affection from him - compliments, hugging, touching, kissing for no reason (he would do it only when he was ready to be intimate).
That was the same with us (except H did a lot of complimenting to me and I came to rely on it for my self esteem)... but I grew up without the physical affection shown so with all the life stresses I was unprepared for, I slipped back into the "feel emotion but don't show it" way I learned when very young. That was my "comfort zone" way to relate to everyone. H kept complaining about lack of sex, but what sex meant to me and him were completely different. He meant intimacy, affection, etc and didn't know how to tell me (he was raised not to ask for anything or he got hit or ridiculed)... I grew up due to my abusive past as seeing sex, love and positive feelings being totally separate things.
~ This Diamond now SHINES!! ;-p ~
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