Loved and Supported...

[sage]

given the fact that the old sage took the role of "mother" in the old r (just basing that on your prior statements about you feeling like you were the only adult in the old r) it may be that he forgot to cancel and therefore didn't mention it to avoid being given the "why haven't you cancelled that yet" speach (if in fact that is something the old sage would have done. is it?)

EXACTLY This is why I'm feeling rather calm about the whole thing....

I'm the one who writes the checks for the bills. I ASSume that h looks at the charges on his cc but up until yesterday that charge was embedded in other charges.

Yesterday, by virtue of the fact that he read the charges out loud to me...he KNOWS it's there. and I know he knows it's there. He just doesn't know I know (LOL).

yes I know, if that IS the case then it certainly isn't fair that h isn't allowing you the opportunity to show him that you aren't that gal anymore...but in time...

Yup.

so try not to look at it as h being dishonest...just try to look at it as h still trying to keep himself safe.

That's exactly what I'm trying to do.

I have to admit that I'm relieved by your response...I half expected a 2x4 from folks..."what! you've got your head in the sand..." etc. I was afraid I was going to have to explain my calm exterior

does he not mention the aol because he's using it to interact with ow or someone else?

I'm not even going to humor you with rationalizing this irrational statment. shame on you!

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I wasn't spending a lot of time going down that path, honestly...

I'm trying to give h the "space" to resolve this in his own way...whatever "this" is.

Sage