Moving on with my life #2

[Startingover2]

Does it ever end? Will anything get through to ths guy?

He called last night to check on baby. I can barely speak to him without a tone, so everything is short and rather cold. His personal phone isn't working yet so he is using his work phone which sends really messed up texts. Not real readable. After the phone conversation he sends a text asking if he can bring my check by in the morning? Well, check was due on the 3rd, but I hate when he holds it hostage so he can see baby. I said afternoon (his regular time) works best for me, that is your time exh. He said "Please! Why?" I didn't answer. He sent 3 more of the same texts and then a "I want to come first thing in the morning? You cannot be that busy." I turned my phone off.

No, Im not really busy but it so ticks me off. I bet he cannot make it this afternoon for one reason or another so he wants to come when it works for him...nevermind everyone else!

He pisses me off! Go be a loser with your girlfriend.

[Startingover2]

Thank you...what I really need to do is turn in my garnishment papers and have it done that way so its not late anymore and there isn't this hostage issue.

Funny with the tone...it is all business and he just does not get it. If I say that these are consequences of his choices he will fire back...oh and you were so perfect and did nothing wrong. Look again SO2! He will NEVER admit that he was the sole final demise to this M. Like you said on your thread: I may not have done everything right, but I didn't deserve what happened. He will also think that I should be over it by now and buddies. Wouldn't that make exh's life just perfect?

[Startingover2]

Yep..they are seriously messed up. If we really look closely the issues go way back and there were indicators then. I just chose to look away.

Exh came for 10 minutes and had to leave to pick up his other D. I know that he has other kids that he needs to tend to but they just use him for rides. He should have said from X to X I am with baby. Will be available after that. Oh well.

He sent a few texts last night saying how 'much he misses our girl' Really? Wow! Couldn't tell that by the way you live your life exh! Baby has not even been on your radar.

[Startingover2]

Just got home from the ER with baby! She has a UTI! Poor thing has been crying and not feeling well most of the day. Finally decided to go to ER right around dinnertime. I called exh on the way and immediately I could tell he was drinking...slurring his words. I told him what was happening and we were on our way to ER. I waited for him to offer to come to the hospital which is literally maybe 1/2 of a mile from his house! Never offered to go. Just told me to let him know how it goes. So my d18 went with me and we spent the last 3 1/2 hours in the ER. That was fun with a toddler! She was screaming when they checked her and then when they weren't in the room it was hard to entertain her without her wanting to play with everything there! LOL

Why does it surprise me that he didn't even offer to go? I know it was because he was drunk, but still....! That is your daughter, she is in pain, sick, and there would be nothing that would stop me from being there.

Ok going to bed!

[Startingover2]

Sunday morning...almost noon.

Exh never, ever called or text'd to check on baby. NOT ONCE! I did send a text when we were still in hospital last night saying "Is UTI, on meds, in pain,still in hospital" No response. I sent a text telling him we were home...no response.

Here it is almost noon the next day and I have not heard from exh...STILL! He may have not remembered the phone call but he sure as heck got the two texts at the very least this morning!

I detailed in my journal the time I called and both texts along with his suspected intoxication.

I am sooooo tired. Baby did not sleep well with the pain. She seems to be feeling better today, but still has some pain.

[S.T. _I Made It!]

hey, don't let his no contact get at you.

don't let his actions affect you, you still want to stay in control of your feelings.

you know what he is capable, or incapable of. until he wakes up, or has a neardeath experience, this behavior of his, is what I would expect from him.

remember how much nicer it is when you aren't in contact with him all the time.

I know you want him to be a good father, but he doesn't have a clue right now. he's never been in the father role to her, and IMHO, he has no clue what he is missing and is of course, just thinking selfishly first.

you make sure you have a good positive presence in your D's life. you need to be careful how you allow your anger to surface, although it can help remind you of why you shouldn't be with exH now, it can also hurt you in your whole being with your D. your anger will flow into the rest of you and you don't want that.

Otherwise, this scenario could happen. D is 8 years old, and because exH is such a child, he is the fun parent that she rarely sees so she desires that connection, and may even crave it. which in turn could make you feel even worse about the whole sitch and bitter, and therefore will cause the cycle to continue and get even worse.

So, you always make sure you are the positive influence in your D life and a fun presence as well.

[S.T. _I Made It!]

did you get cranberry juice for D? make sure it is unsweetened.

also, you can try Marshmallow root.

hope she feels better soon, poor thing. did they say how she got it?

[S.T. _I Made It!]

B!!! good to hear from ya! and boy, I can't believe it's been a year also, wow

[Startingover2]

Exh finally called this afternoon. He did not even remember our conversation last night. I had to tell him again were we were. He pretended like he knew..."Oh yeah..thats right" I said I was tired and had to go. Disgusting to me.

[S.T. _I Made It!]

ya, kinda figured he wouldn't remember. that is sad. but nothing you can really do.