Until you have gone through the legal system don't even pretend to know what it's like. And don't suggest to anybody it is a way to soothe hurt feelings or start over.
That is true...I havent been through it in the way you have...and with my state not allowing such suits I cant go through it ever.
However, as I said they are traditionally referred to as "heart balm" statutes. Your reasons for pursuing action apparently werent for soothing any emotional distress caused by your spouse/ex...but if they are referred to as such, it would stand to reason that a good portion of people (not all) who have pursued such actions over the years were doing so as retrubution.
