After finding this board and reading the DR I have learned that I really need to improve me.
These are some things that I have been doing to make myself better: -I've been going to an IC to work through my issues and my feelings about the end of our marriage -I've been creating a better relationship with God. I've gone back to church, I've been reading the Bible, and started praying regularly -I've done my best to GAL when I have time. I've reunited with some of my old friends and made several new friends -I've become more active at school by talking and interacting more with people there and seeking out help from upperclassmen -I've started a self help program on toolstolife.com and I'm learning and doing exercises from there to boost my confidence and morale -I've been lifting weights and eating healthier -I've been talking with my family more (I have kinda neglected for the past few years)
I'm going to make this observation, it's quite possible your wife knew you were making excuses as to why you couldn't do more with her, spend more time with her, socialize, travel, etc.
You're still going to school yet look at all the new things you've finally made time for on top of your school work: going to counselling, going to church, reading the bible, GAL, hanging out with old friends, making new friends, more active at school, starting a self help program, lifting weights, talking with your family more, etc.
Remember you previously didn't have time for your wife and school, now you have time for school and a list of other things. School may have been important but it shouldn't have been more important than your wife was, she felt neglected and after putting up with this for so long, she decided this wasn't for her, she was young enough to start over and meet someone else. I'm not attacking you but I am trying to open up your eyes a little to the situation you're in.
