Hi,
I think a lot of us women have that prob. here-when our h's are quiet or what we PERCEIVE as distant, we make ASSumptions. Or in my case, get paranoid.

But, as RMC said, don't we ALL feel like that at one time or another? Like sometimes we feel bubbly and talkative, but other days we just want to be mellow and not feel like we have to be "on." and just chill???

Venus/Mars-men are like rubberbands-they need to expand themselves for a little while (to regain their own sense of self I guess) and then they come back. What we need to do is trust that they WILL come back. And, if we get in their space, they just back off even further.

And another thing, , they need to feel accepted by us no matter what mood they are in. (provided it is not abusive.)
Ok, I'm going to go take my own advice now!

hope all is well,
ttys!
karen