I live in Australia so i cant call one of the coaches. I guess we both lost site of the fact that a marriage has to be worked on. We moved to a new area about 8 years ago and not knowing anyone we joined one of the local volunteer groups. Everything was fine for the first 3 years or so. Then my husband started to put more and more of his time into the group and work and less and less time into us. I did the stupid thing of nagging and getting angry, all the usual things. It was about 6 weeks ago he came back from his trip and drop the bomb shell on me. The funny thing is that as soon as he told me i could see that all the things i had been doing to try and bring us back together again was what pushed him away. I quit the volunteer group and all the anger and resenment i just faded, i realised i wasn't angry at him but the group for taking him away. His trip was one of those team building things, a bunch of guys having fun and i think it made him realise he hadnt had for a while. So i have stopped naggging him. I'm being nice and pleasant and as happy as i can be, but he is away again this weekend and im scared that it will just re-enforce what he has said.
