The latest with me

[ImprovedRomeo]

Been a loooong time everyone and I'm back in the same situation. She moved out a couple of days ago while I was at work without telling me. I felt she always had one foot out the door. Lately things got a bit rocky and we argued over a few little things and wham! she's out.

My sweetheart of a DD is now almost 6 and it's really tough for her. Obviously it's tough for me too but it just makes my heart cry to see her future split up and torn like this.

I don't even know what to do or expect, I pretty much want to give up at this point. It's been a long road. She also hasn't had a job for a year since she got laid off so I really don't know what her plans are. I'm afraid she's going to go after alimony etc.

Two days ago she emailed me late afternoon saying "let's meet for dinner tonight, I've found a place to live so we're not fighting in front of DD all the time". So we meet for dinner and I ask her what happened and she said that I've been mean to her...I asked her to be specific and she couldn't really. She mentioned a couple of little arguments and I told her my side of the story as well as my frustrations. Things seemed OK and I assumed she was fine and would come home. So she spent that night at her new place with DD. Last night she spent the night here (all her stuff is at the new place) and I took that as a positive sign too. Today she said she was going to stay at the new place with DD and if I wanted to have dinner together we could meet somewhere. I asked her why she's staying there. She said because her stuff's there and she has to be at some unemployment job placement place early morning. I responded saying "is that why DD should spend a night at some new place? I'll keep her" she responded "OK then, I'll drop her off after I pick her up from school". Now I get up at 5:30AM to go to work which is over an hour drive, but she didn't even show any interest in offering to help or changing her mind. I got home and noticed a few more things were gone. So when she came over with DD I asked her if she was coming back or not and she said she didn't know. I said why won't she be truthful with me for once and tell me what she wants to do and not leave me in a limbo. She said she didn't know and "probably not". Unfortunately DD was there so neither her nor I wanted to discuss it any further but just knowing that much I know she's not intentions of coming back. With work etc I just don't know how this will turn out. I feel I have yet another loooong steep mountain to climb with no help in sight.

When she left I asked her to please return the keys to the house and her response was "well how will I get the rest of my stuff" I said "I'll think of something". I don't know if it's the right thing for me to do or not but the reason I'm showing tough love this time is because I let her control the whole situation last time and she made me feel like a doormat.