Babydoll, I know you must be getting pressure from all sides now to just drop him. I mean, his actions ARE really appalling. But you were in the process of stepping back (with a lot of ups and a few more downs lately). I really feel you need to keep on this track. If you still WANT to save the marriage & give it every last chance, then you need to step right back, not respond to your H for the minute until you come up with a PLAN. I'm sure others on this site, can help you work through that. I read this article from the NY Times posted in another thread today. What do you reckon about the wife who took the stance "Nah, i don't buy it". I know your sitch is not the same...but you might find parallels. http://www.nytimes.com/2009/08/02/fashion/02love.html?_r=1
Me 36; H 40 baby born in May M:13, T:15 Bomb (OW): Dec 09 began DBing: Feb WH overseas with OW old: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2027369#Post2027369
