Quote: Your H seems to be the ideal post A husband!
well....that's certainly a mixed blessing, no?
Honestly? My h has been wonderful but he hasn't been the "text book" post-A "gotta do this or you're doomed to failure" guy....
IOW, the first time I read "After the Affair" I wept because I knew that many of the things in there were things that h just wouldn't do....
We've struggled mightily with my "need" for words and reassurances and his "need" to be trusted w/o them.
It's been slow and scary. It's taken some tremendous effort on both parts...particularly in the area of just "letting the other be".
It's my hope that the pace, the hard work, the learning process has made this all sustainable....
I'm a very lucky woman. I do hope that he views himself as a lucky man.
And I grateful that I've grown new ways to see and appreciate all that he does for me...that was the biggest key for me...to "hear" with different ears.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
