Quote: I think that this would really be a + for us....right now she's definitely a taboo subject. It even feels weird (least for me) when we're watching a movie or tv and someone has her first name (it's kind of an unusual first name). My hope is that this weekend was a babystep towards just feeling a lot more comfortable being straightforward with each other.
Wait until your new employee's first name is the same that OW's. I used to get goosebumps when the poor thing answered the phone.
In a more serious light: my H used to think OW was beyond limits too, but the I realized he was just scared that by mentioning her, I'd throw the A at his face. I kept mentioning her in a light, non chalant way and eventually he got more confident and opened up.
It is not talking of her, is being blamed that they fear.
You may want to try that approach...o wise one
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
