robx I have looked into that possibility, and there's nothing to it. I've gotten with trusted friends, and it's not the problem. She was acting cold and distant before I left, but I never thought it would turn to this. If you read through my entire post, you'll see this.
I have a plan for when I get home, and it involves the children. Everything is joint and in both names, so until we can be able to split things, which will be awhile, it's like supporting two households. We have an alternate living plan, which I've talked about in here.
In talking to people close to her, these are feelings she harbored and suppressed for years. For some reason they came out after I left because the tension was gone.
My 180 is to let her go and break off all contact. I knew we would be staying at different places when I got home, but i just didn't think it would be right after she dropped me off.
STOP!
No one is expected to support 2 households, get this mindset of yours to change. If your wife really wants to leave, she can and you can't do anything about that. But you don't have to pay for another house or apartment, where did you read that this is a requirement for you? She can get a job, she's an adult. Look if she can make the decision to leave you, there are alot of things that happen because of that. She can't expect that you'll pay for her way in life when you're not with her. You can separate your finances, in fact, you can start doing that when you get home or speaking to a bank before that and getting a new chequings/saving account somewhere else and when you get home, start depositing your pay in there.
