My Story...grass is greener (pt 3)

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Unbelievable. The whole sitch through all the threads (is this the 3rd one?) is beyond words. Nsw can be a poster boy for justifying WAS logic if there ever was one.

It's not about saving the R or being good co-parents or whatever. Nsw, get help for your sanity.

To be blunt, from what I have seen of YOUR behaviour, the sitch looks like this:

Your EX, with all her flaws and being only too human, saw through the immature, vindictive, small minded person she was living her life with and had a child with. She found a better life with a better man who just happened to be older. Larger age differences have existed before in perfectly fine relationships. Age difference alone does not make one a predator. Now she just wants to get on with what seems to be a better life, but she is constantly harassed, harangued, and bothered by an ex who just doesn't get it, just would not listen, behaves like a spoilt brat, and could hurt her and her family in his thirst for revenge.

Your logic is that whatever she thinks, you were happy together, you must now get back together and be happy, that whatever happiness she finds elsewhere must be false, and it makes you unhappy on top of it, that any other man she would be with is a bad person / predator / criminal, and she must see your point of view because that is the only valid point of view. And if you can't get your own way, then there is no fairness in the world, and she must be made to suffer. And if you can't explicitly see her suffering, you must start the process yourself in whatever way you can. Until and unless you are satisfied that she, and whoever she loves either sees that they are wrong and you are right, or they are suffering so much they cannot be happy.

And you will justify all these as "consequences" or for your D.

Not a nice picture is it? Are you going to do something about it? Please, seriously, get HELP.