LR, I can't help but hope that she's horrified at his behavior! That may be a terrible thing to say, but I guess I just want her to at least see how unfounded or exaggerated some of his side of the story is.

She has made the comment before that all boys are mama's boys, no matter how old they are. She was accurate, at least in her case.

So you and rr22 are saying that I should absolutely not disclose anything to WW about my personal feelings or opinions about my situation? If she asks, what is the best way to deflect questions without being rude or once again seeming (especially to H, should he get word) that I'm okay with or without him? I don't want to do "more of the same" in her company, especially if she reports things back to him.

Thanks for your perspective! It's good to have the mother of a son providing some input here.