By the way...for those few folks here lucky enough to live in a state where those laws are still on the books (not mine...of course), if nothing else, I say get a L to pursue those avenues to help soothe your emotional wounds. In those states, you can sue your WAS and the OP. It wont bring your WAS back...but it might help you start a better life without them.
For your information I do live in one of those states where the laws are still on the books. Actually, it is the ONLY state in the US where the those laws are still in place and I can assure you what you are saying is such bullshit it's not even funny.
If you think initiating or creating a counter suit against your spouse (keep in mind you don't actually have a spouse) in the name of infidelity (a crime in my state), emotional abuse, theft and anything else allowable by law offers ANY bright spot you are insane.
You have NO F'ING idea the emotional toll it takes to maneuver through a legal system that does have these laws. Don't spout out such crap. If you think *that* will help you soothe emotional wounds then you need more help than any of us or a C can give you.
Being trapped in a court system for an average of 12-24 months and spending on the average of 10-15K per spouse is hardly soothing and hardly a way to start a better life.
You know, I think this sometimes but I will say it now... you are stupid. I don't care who thinks I am rude. Deal with it. All you care about is revenge and that is your sad issue to own. Until you have walked a mile in the shoes of the thousands of people in this state who have lived in HELL due to the laws that you wish your state had, then shut your mouth. And to have the balls to say it will soothe wounds. You are out there, my man.
My advice may NEVER be good. If anybody new is reading this avoid listening to this BS. The way you soothe yourself is by learning healthy tools to do so. The way you start over is by obtaining healthy tools to do so. Don't listen to this person. He is too consumed by revenge, control and rage to even make a lick of sense.
If this gets me banned, well, that is fine with me. Nobody should be allowed to post such asinine "advice".
