Hi HB! First of all, thankyou for what you said about me to Round 2. I was just catching up on her thread and we do have a lot of similarities!
No, I have not discussed the D with him at all since the disscussion of talking to the kids and him blaming me for his rush to file. The only things I have talked to him about on the phone were about our rental property and today about S's appt/grades...this is it for our conversations in 3 weeks except when he called last week to say he had to work so would not see the kids and if the kids had been home, he wouldn't have called me at all.
As for the distancing...I did not look at it the way you have explained it. Was hurt that he didn't even seem to care about S14. And, you are right, he has also distanced himself from SS28. Has not seen him since 12/30. My DIL has started calling him from her work # as he won't answer when she calls from her cell....so yes, I am not the only one he is pushing away.
Easing him out, easing him out, easing him out....of my mind!
Quick story...a friend of mine stopped in my work place the other day looking for me and my co-worker asked if she was a friend of mine. This friend and I kinda lost touch after we had kids, went on with our lives and ran into each other occassionally at the big hair shows. I hadn't talked with her for a couple of years and before I had surgery (masectomy) she calls out of the blue! She had heard from a friend of a client of mine about my cancer. She came to the hospital the day of the surgery, brought food for my family etc. Called once in ahwile during chemo and once I was all better, quit calling! So, when she leaned in to ask my co-worker "how is Lisa doing?" my co-worker assumed that since she was my friend, that she knew about my H and my seperation and dropped the bomb! I called my friend last night and we talked for awhile and she didn't judge, just offered support and her H if I needed anything around the house done etc....I just can't help thinking that that was not a coincidence! She told me what a strong person I am and that I didn't seem to know that!!! Hmmm, where have I heard that before?
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing
