"I can finally say that I went a full day of NC whatsoever."

Great! but wait! There are 2 types of contact that you need to protect yourself from.

"You are supposed to be living a life WITHOUT his INVOLVEMENT".

I will say the same as Allen.

Now that you have gotten over the hurdle of "Direct contact", we can work on "Indirect Contact".

Direct contact is seeing, phoning, texting, emailing.

Indirect is trickier. This includes allowing any thought of WH at all! Like reports from others about WH, checking, and yes, even thinking and posting here about him. The less contact, the better for you and your marriage. It gets easier as the days go by.

And no, you are not supposed to "just sit here!" This has been the hardest part for me...GALing. My life as is, is very busy. But I have gotten into some old interests, family history stuff, scrapbooking, tennis, that had fallen by the wayside. Start thinking and posting along these lines.




"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!"
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