Detaching will be pretty dang easy if this keeps up! I swear he seems to be getting worse!
The distancing becoming greater since he's filed, is a normal thing; yet he's STILL confused about what he's doing, and any conversations you've had with him since are confusing him further(I'm assuming you've not made a big deal to him out of him filing; you're just talking/ranting about it here)
He's expecting you to pitch a fit with him, talk him out of it, something, and you're not doing that, are you? In fact you're not really doing anything but getting on with your life; and I don't think he's likes that very much; you're not feeding his justification for what he's doing.
You're letting him go, but will fight for what's yours when the time comes; since you're not really talking to him about anything other than what you have to, he is unable to guess what you will do right now, based on what he knew before. So, he's creating distance to see if you will close the gap..but don't take the bait..keep letting him go.
You will know if/when it's time to close that gap with him.
On the other hand, he was expecting to start feeling better once papers were filed, and he's NOT getting there; and that's got him thinking deeply, too; to the point he's distant with not only you but most likely, with everyone else, CW.
Don't concern yourself with him..just ease him right on out of your mind.
He's also got ALOT on his mind; guilt amongst other things...and you're right, detaching will be VERY easy if this keeps up..make it easier for you...so run with it!
The answers are there within you; you must learn to access those. Sometimes it is helpful to "talk it out", and the answers will come that way.
Anyway, this is what I'm getting from your post...deep confusion/distant behavior on his part.
It's going to take some time for what he's started to do to really sink in; I think it's starting to, but hasn't gotten very far yet.
On some it doesn't really sink until the deed is a done deal. On others, it takes MORE time....unfortunately, on still others, they go on, and NEVER admit what they did was a mistake; pride gets in the way. Possiblities to look at in this...unpredictable possiblities.
You're doing fine...HE's NOT.
What do you think?
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
