It's one of the only positives of these sitches, the way the turmoil can bring parents and children closer. At the risk of talking too much about my kids, I'll tell you more about how lucky I am.
Last night I took D17 out to get some chocolate (she said she NEEDED it!). When we got back we sat in the car in the driveway and talked for over an hour. She told the the kind of stuff I think daughters seldom tell parents. She regrets losing her virginity so young; she rushed into the relationship with this college boy because she did'nt want to be alone; she worries that she allows her boyfriend to distract her from her girl friends, and more.
I couldn't be more thankful, and I told her so.
Later that night, alone with my thoughts, I realized that the times me and my W had shared that level of communication had been very rare, maybe never. Of course, it's very different between a parent and a child. I'm so proud of my kids, and I know that my W has been a big contributor in who they are. Our marriage is failing, but we have both raised some wonderful kids. I just wish I had been able to give my W the sense of safety and comfort for her to talk to me the same way my own daughter does. Of course, it takes two!
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