Sage, I understand your anxiety about this. Our brains go into hyper mode if there is anything suspicious at all. In this case I think honesty is the best policy. Pick your words wisely (try not to let those negative emotions come through!) and tell him how it made you feel. DO NOT beat yourself up for the feeling this way! That's just the way it's gonna be until enough time has passed that we actually really DO TRUST THEM. Let's face it-right now most of us are "acting as if." It will take time for us to feel confortable trusting them. I think if we are gonna get there we need to tell them when we have an issue come up that really concerns us. If not it will eat at us ( I hate that!) Do you feel comfortable talking to him about it-telling him how you felt? I know I seem to reisist doing that, but in the end when I do I always feel better for it. You'll do the right thing-just think it through, and do what you think is best. Rachael
