I got a lot of that from Phil McGraw, he goes right for the throat :
Want to know if something is cheating? If you wouldn't do it with your spouse standing there, it's cheating.
If you want to have a good partner, be a good partner. Put 100 percent into your marriage.
It is unfair to compare a new, exciting, taboo fantasy relationship to one you've been in for years where there are kids, bills to pay, a house to run and noses to wipe. That is a ridiculous comparison.
In order to resolve your relationship, contact with "the other person" must be cut off 100 percent. You can't work on dealing with the consequences of the affair while you're still having it.
Don't rely on your heart to tell you what to do; rely on your intellect. Do what logic tells you is the right thing to do.
And this one's my favourite :
Be mature enough to recognize that life is not always all about you and what feels good for you in the moment. If you are married and have children, you have an obligation and a commitment that far transcends what feels good.
