I have one one occassion said some truthful but hurtful things to W and that didn't help,
yeah I did that...only gave her more excuses to not get back together with me...as in "after you called me 'this' and said I cheated on you and did 'that' and 'blah blah blah' you think I can just forget everything and have everything be fine and dandy and go back to the way it was?'".
Originally Posted By: maynard2121
I feel SO much better not communicating w/ W- am I happy she's bangin another guy- NO WAY- He better hope I NEVER MEET HIM- I have had dreams of tearing him apart.
yeah...this is what worries me. I still have never seen him...and on here or over the phone can say I wouldnt want to fight him and such...but depending on how my ex's L builds a case for the custody suit...he may be there to testify. So I'm not sure if I will be able to contain myself when I actually do see him, knowing that he's done stuff with my ex.
I know in my head that if I were to lose control and attack him...in a place like that woith witnesses and such...my ex will get full or even sole custody right on the spot. But such reactions arent governed by logic...they're much more primitive/primal in nature...the fight or flight response. So as I said...I'm worried.
However...I know where he lives...and so if I really wanted to do anything to him I could go over at any time to do so. I know it would be wrong...and so I choose not to do so. So maybe I would be able to contain myself. who knows.
