oh, yeah. sometimes I look around and wonder--where'd everybody go?! (and why'd everybody go?!) having so few attachments to people is a genuine physical stressor--not sure I realized that until I began reading about recovering from abandonment.
Recently somebody posted - I forget who - (was it you?) that it would almost have been better if Spouse had died.
The abandonment feels like like he or might as well have. But the circle of friends and loved ones would have tightened, gathered around us, supported us, lifted us up, included us.
Instead, even though an emotional "death," an emotional "widowhood", if you will, has taken place and is every bit as debilitating, the opposite happens: the circle disperses, feels awkward, figures, "hey, it's over; move on."
An extreme analogy, perhaps but I remember reading it and thinking, "Exactly!"
Good for you on the interview. Sometimes interviewers are just as nervous as interviewees. And some interviewers just out-and-out stink at it. Very few managers with hiring authority - in any discipline or industry - get any training on conducting interviews. Go figure.
Glad your daughter got the part. And I'm sure the cross will be beautiful when its done.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
