For one thing, the mother will always stick by her child. Second, she has nothing to do with her son's R.
the second thing you're certainly right about. However, not all parents stick by their kids when they sincerely feel their kid is doing something wrong.
Case in point is my ex's mom. This whole thing has brought her and I closer and her and my ex further apart because when my ex first left, rather than be like my ex's father and say "ok EX whatever you want", she told her she was doing the wrong thing and that she was a terrible mother for doing this to D3.
This is why my ex did not go to live with her mother over her father...because her mother puts her foot down and tells it like it is, while her father lets her get away with whatever she wants so long as she enables him and does for him. And that is not just my observation, that came from my ex's mother.
So, to much relief, not everyone blindly follows the "blood is thicker than water" philosophy.
Now, that having been said...I'm going to go by the 24-48 hour rule thats been passed around here...and see if I still feel the same way about this in two days. I mean...if I did call her, and then realize it was wrong, I cant un-call her...and the the consequences for me could be severe, or not.
In addition to asking about it here, I called my mom and asked her advice. She brought up the question of what if this woman is sick or so frail that something like this could give her a heart attack. While I think thats a little extreme to think that...I guess its possible. She's in her late 60's at the very least. Of course if that did happen, while it would directly be my fault, indirectly I wouldnt even know of the woman or her son if it wasnt for my ex. Not that that makes it right....
