Listen- you are effing up just like I did...you cannot actr out of emotion- thats what WAS is doing...I have gambled away a shirt ton of money to feel better and it didn't work...I have one one occassion said some truthful but hurtful things to W and that didn't help, I have approached MIL about the A's and that didnt help...
The point is you and I have stood in our own way...time to get out of the way and just be...be the best dad you can be...know that WAS is doing what she's doing- regardless of whether you want her too or not, and especially b/c you dont want her to!!!
If W knew about my gambling this way the last few months- she'd feel even more justified in my not being a sound husband- and I would have no way to argue otherwise.
You're in the same boat- to the WAS WE are the problem, get rid of the problem and MAYBE she'll think of you differently.
I feel SO much better not communicating w/ W- am I happy she's bangin another guy- NO WAY- He better hope I NEVER MEET HIM- I have had dreams of tearing him apart.
It's not a matter of the best reveng being a good life- its not about revenge...it's about looking at our part in things and f*&king growing UP- being better, stronger, more understanding, compassionate, responsible, ATTENTIVE...that's it!
Get out of your own way, be a GREAT dad, and forget your W---then see what happens, I guarantee you that you'll be in a better place.
