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[blownaway65]

Aver, it actually gets easier with time. I just tell myself (no I KNOW deep down) that I'm a better person for this experience. I'm the one doing the work to make my next R a better one and to make me a way better person. W & OM aren't.

OM is Divorced, he left his W. My W left me. I know they will go thru their "honeymoon" time and when reality sets in it will be them, NOT ME who hit the wall.

When their day comes I know that it won't be any problem to be able to look W in the eye and confidently tell her I am not remotely interested in having her back - I've well and truly moved on.

I'm seeing changes in the way my friends see me, had lots of comments on how good I look, how confident and happy I am.

The lady I'm seeing is always telling me I'm a "beautiful man".

Sure there will always be people, especially in a small town like mine, who give the strange looks and talk about what they THINK is going on. But they haven't walked in our shoes so what they think holds no interest to me at all.

It started a lot with "Act as If", but as time goes by Aver, as you drop the rope to WAS, it just becomes !

As for co parenting, not much of an issue for me there, I have the kids, W is content just to see them a few hours a week. Just makes me more the better person and her someone who gives up. I know I'm passing on to the kids positive things that they will take into adulthood and that makes me feel all the better.

Hope this helps.