Morning Sage

Not sure if this will help you with the ff thing or not but it helped me out a lot.

During H and I's convo about OW this week I inquired if it made him uneasy to talk about OW. H said he hadn't really thought about it one way or the other...it was over with and he wasn't losing any sleep over it. I told him that it was easier for me to talk about it openly and straightforward...that treating it like a big secret or something that needed to be hidden and kept quiet tended to cause my brain to go into hyper-drive and I'd end up dwelling on it too much. H said he had no problem with that as long as I was comfortable with it.

Tonight H told me that he appreciated that I did not throw the A in his face and kept discussion of it as casual as possible. Do you and CJ talk about his EA openly or is it something that ya'all kind of just circle around most of the time for fear of upsetting each other? Would it be easier (as it was for me) for you to set aside the vestiges of fear you still experience if you COULD talk about it openly without worry of recrimination? If you think so then you might ask CJ how he feels about it...the worse that could happen is he would say it makes him uncomfortable, right?

I have the same problem with the comp and H as you do I walk upstairs and he always closes down stuff or pops another screen up. I have to admit that I am guilty of doing the same thing at times . Usually I just point blank ask him WHY? H says it's mostly just habit (xw use to give him hell about comp) but he is trying to do better (which he is!) I have explained to him in the past that since he tells me he has nothing to hide that the action of closing something down when I come up contradicts his statement which in turn leads me to want to snoop. It is an area that we are working on

Try not to beat yourself up to bad about experiencing the sudden anxiety You have been doing everything RIGHT oh Wise One...try looking at it as a learning thing---you just figured out what one of your "triggers" are

Hugz
Zoo

"If patience is worth anything, it must endure to the end of time. And a living faith will last in the midst of the blackest storm." - Mahatma Gandhi