The more he resists adulthood, the more childish he looks, and yes, with you exposing and showing everyone those phone records, and him admitting he's got a close female friend he talks to that he wont STOP talking to... I think a second grader can do that math...
This is why protection phase is so powerful.
You aren't whining at him like a nag You are sitting back looking like a perfect adult You tell everyone you want to save your marriage You care for the kids You are seeing a family therapist You are talking to HIS family still
The more maturity, growth, humaness, and plain simple maturity you show here while he is
Whining Moaning Moaping Lying Hiding Avoiding
The more obvious things look to everyone...
So you keep up that protection phase... when you start chasing him, it just makes HIM look better... everyone things
"Ah, she's THAT kind of wife, I see..."
But when you keep your composure and HE mopes about like a two year old, YOU look in the right and YOU get more support
They WILL realize he's cheating, he's making it more obvious every day that HE does what he's doing and YOU do what YOU are diong... just AVOID him... you know what happens when you contact him
He pulls YOU down to HIS LEVEL and then YOU look as BAD as HE DOES right now... seriously
You keep your composure, he gets pressure from outside you and your kids, its all good.
Hang in there... be sure to keep prepping your friends what your boundaries are so they keep pressing that message at him
The more CONSISTENT the message, the more pressure he gets
