For all you know the OM has already told him mom and filled her in on the night you stormed over there.
I thought about that...at least about him filling her in on who he's seeing. And I also thought about whether she knows or not, if she's like a lot of the amoral people in this town, she still might not care that he's seeing someone so much younger or that his actions affected a family.
I only considered it because I'm still pissed off that my ex will have no consequences to face for her actions...or any consequences will pale in comparison to what I've had to endure...it doesnt really have anything to do with my ex wanting me back. As I said I was hoping that by telling his mother and anyone else who might not know about the relationship...it would kill a lot of the excitement my ex (and him maybe) seems to be getting out of it by sneaking around like a giddy teenager in love.
I'm not a big fan of "the best revenge is living well"...I think if someone wrongs you there should be consequences. Maybe its just me but getting your bills paid and having a care-free life with a whirlwind romance to boot after breaking up your family doesnt seem to be consequences...more like rewards.
No consequences for my ex also sets a bad example for D3. As I paraphrased elsewhere, parental infidelity significantly affects a child’s outlook on life: they learn that telling lies is right if it spares punishment, deceit is acceptable if it spares the faithful person pain, self-gratification is more important than hurting loved ones, and insensitivity to others hurt is ok. Once the unfaithful spouse abandons home and family for the newfound love, they prove by example that selfishness is right.
And its not right. It's no different than letting a murderer or a rapist go free.
