just another thought...I'm wondering if this wouldn't have worked better if I had approached it with humor a la ellie and her h -- something like "I just did something that your first w. would have done..."
one more thing...part of me is frustrated because I feel like I'm monitoring myself all the time..I wish that I felt more confident that h will let me know if he's not happy with something I've done or am doing....maybe it's enough that I've improved my listening skills so I'd see it way before the I want a D discussion?
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
