All in all, communication is improving between me and W. We chatted online for a couple of hours today.
We talked about things such as what is going on in the lives of our daughters and things coming up with them and their feelings and concerns on things. We also chatted on where we are both looking to move and now W is thinking about possibly looking at the same apartment complex I am looking at to save money and not have to do maintenance and be close by for the girls.
She contacted me first today to mainly talk about D12's comments to her about wondering if they were going to do anything fun over here with me this weekend. D12 said I don't spend very much money. Well, I don't compared to what W and her fammily drop on things. I said I am creative though and do things with them that they enjoy. She said she tried to explain to D12 finances, etc to make her basically understand that money doesn't grow on trees.
I talked about teaching the girls how to dance again and W said she would be in on that when they are with her as well and just a bunch of other things.
At the end of it she told me to have a good night. I said you to. She said thanks.
Just the fact that we were able to chat about things for a couple of hours today was encouraging.
All in all, positive lines of communication are opening up a bit more frequently now. She asked if I had any plans tonight. I said I am studying trying to prepare for this job. She doesn't know that I have actually struggled at times with focusing and am behind on my own personal schedule. But what I don't finish, I will pick up on the job.
She does seem to be reaching out more and taking a bit more interest in me these days, but still a long ways off from an ideal situation.
Baby steps I guess. 19 months later and some doors are finally starting to just crack open between us. It has been a rough 19 months and hard to believe it has taken this long just to start to crack the positive lines of communication. But better late than never.
It is a start in the right direction and it is encouraging that she is starting to look at friendship with time and doing things together without the kids with time.
I have no expectations what that time frame may be as I would never have guessed it would have taken 19 months just to get to this point.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
