all great stuff- shirtty sitches for us all, but progress and positives all the way around. The control/effort thing you mention has been a huge revelation for me.
I can see how everything I was doing was fuel for W to keep running...I don't mind though spending some energy busting the A's- didn't do me much good, but I felt like it was the right thing to do.
The beautiful thing is no longer having the desire or energy to pursue- I used to wake up a few hours before WAW and write pages and pages of letters...UGH- this went on for weeks.
I guess you have to get it out of your system at first...now I don't even bother, dont have anything left to say, and the further away I drift, the less appealing she is anyway.
