Thankyou Mila! Yup, NC is definitely for me. It has really helped me to get my bearings as I said. My H does not come to the house as he pleases now since I implemented NC. He is allowed 1 day a week for 4 hours on that day to read and check mail. I will lengthen that amount of time as we go. Provided H complies with my boundaries. And I do try to be his friend as well. I use the 12 step program to live each day and implement it into this crisis as well. Compassion is the way, but not to the extent of not taking care of me. So I treat H with respect regardless of how he receives it, but not so much as to jepardize or compromise my well-being. I am glad your H has found respect for your boundaries as well.
M\51- H\53 crisis-08 M-30 years 2-D's 25\22 ILYBINILWY - Feb 09 BD - Mar 09 Sep- May 09 NC -Jan 10 H fl'd papers Aug-10
