How do I act?

[Cautious]

A lot has happened here in the last few days! Okay, let me try to catch up and hit the key points that you asked about.

Making Love - In the books, MWD makes it clear that this is your decision. If you know and ACCEPT that it will not lead to a full reconcilliation immediately following, go for it. If you are afraid your feelings will take over and you will be needy and ask for him back afterwards, I recommend not. It's okay to tell him that with the way things are now, you don't think that's a good idea, it seems too much like casual sex and you respect yourself too much to only be used for a release... something along those lines, fitted according to your own beliefs.

Time - I don't want to scare you here, but I should mention that there are people who have been on this board for years. Reading some of the success stories, you'll see it took some of them quite a few months or longer. All depends on the damage involved. You don't want a quick, half-way reconcilliation because the problems will not be addressed as needed and you'll end up right back where you started. Patience is key. Repeat that word to yourself as often as possible: patience. Post it up as a reminder. Rome wasn't built in a day.

Individual counseling - Who cares if you just use it for venting? At least you're getting it out. You need someone to listen to you without judgement and allow you to get that stuff off your chest. Better than getting angry at your H, right? Of course, we're here if you want to vent to us too. Be selfish about it, just let it all out. We all know the more anxiety you keep inside, the more it gnaws at you and keeps you up at night.

Weight Loss - I lost 30lbs (that I couldn't afford to lose) the first two months. If you think medication will help, by all means talk to your doctor. Otherwise, your appetite eventually does return, but your sympathetic nervous system (fight or flight) is getting in the way - you're too busy being anxious about your situation, so your body naturally suppresses your appetite. When you two fell in love, believe it or not, you probably reacted the same way. The nerves make it hard to eat.

And lastly, just know you're on the right path. It's a hard one, for sure, but it's (IMO) the right one. I believe in you, I believe it will get easier. Right now you need something to take your mind off the sitch for a while - movies maybe? I'm not sure what options for entertainment are available to you there.

Good luck and hugs!