New here but have been a voyeur

[pearlharbr]

thank you Puppy...you should really charge per response

If that were the case, I'd have to be on the payment plan for the next ten years!

Lola, I'm a bit concerned that you're responding so quickly to H whenever he contacts. Start making yourself wait at least two hours before returning a text or call. It may not sound like a big deal but it signals that you are readily available to H and that you will stop whatever you're doing for him. And that means you are not emotionally detached. IMHO you're still very much caught up in what H thinks, what H wants, how H will react to what you say/do.

This is supposed to be time for you to figure out what you want to do. Time for H to prove to you that he is committed to this M. Take a step back and give yourself this space.