YEP. That is EXACTLY what I am saying. You don't want her making contact 90% of the time.. You want it to be 100% of the time.. For now. We can talk about when to contact her and when it is ok to contact her later. For now, leave her alone.
When she FEELS that you may have really really really let her go and may even be happier WITHOUT her, then is when she will start to toss everything around in her head.. "Am I doing the right thing, what if I am making a mistake, is he seeing someone else, and on and on and on...
She CAN'T think those things now BECAUSE of the pressure she feels because she KNOWS and FEELS you STILL want her back. How can she really respect you if you don't have the deep deep conviction that you WILL NOT SHARE your wife with another man?
There is only one REAL way to prove that to her and to prove to her that you are a man of integrity, strength, resolve, decisiveness, confidence and great self esteem.... AND THAT is by not saying another word about what she is doing and just silently moving on and acting like you are not even thinking about it for one more second of your life...
WHEN she FEELS that attitude, is when you may have your opening.
Think about this.... Your emotions of loss of her never coming back are fueling this.. Why? BECAUSE you feel SHE has let go. See how that works? She is doing to you the thing that works to stir up emotions. The threat of irrevocable loss. The fear of loss. She can't feel those feeling if she hasn't had to face the reality and the actual feelings a person goes through UNTIL you prove to her that maybe YOU don't want HER back. Maybe you DON'T want a woman who keeps sleeping and falling for other men...... You can only get her to feel that loss by acting as if you don't care anymore. "NOTHING MORE TO TALK ABOUT ATTITUDE.. "I get it. You want HIM."
She already is basically telling you she wants him, but it isn't what you want to hear or believe or tell yourself right now because of your confidence and self esteem level.
