Something I found that works, that surprises me really: his need for approval is overriding everything else, so I've been very vocal about my disappointment with his actions re: me and our son. Not in a rude way, just a simple "I'm disappointed you would act in that way."
Me: 26 Ex: 27 Son: 5
Divorced: 3/2010 Each day is another opportunity to do it right.