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[Mila]

If your H is in MLC, there is nothing much you can do to speed up the process. The common strategy for MLC is to be his friend, that is, if you can establish some boundaries to protect yourself from emotional abuse.

If you can handle being his friend, I think that it could be helpful in the long run if you are working on getting your marriage back. I would try that first and see how it feels. I would think that the NC is more meant to protect YOU.

Please read the links in "resources", there is lots of info on MLC and what to expects or rather what not to expect.

You mentioned that even thou he doesn't live with you anymore, he comes to the house anytime he pleases. I had to set a boundary about that with my WH. I told him that I want to be home when he comes to the house and that he has to call ahead of time if he wants to come over and that even if I know that he is coming he is to ring the bell and not to use his key to just walk in. He respects it now.

These are just my opinions, If anyone doesn't agree with me please free to jump in and set me straight.