Yep. I guess if I had really let go I wouldn't be divorce busting. I would just be moving on with my life.
It's an odd dichotomy. You have to let go, for your own sanity, self-esteem, mental well-being. As it stands, right now, you DON'T have a M/R w/W. This doesn't necessarily mean that you won't at some point in the future. I think it is very helpful to focus on this minute, with an eye toward the future.
You can choose to throw yourself at someone who has made it clear that they don't want you [now] or you can retain your dignity and say 'I don't want anybody who doesn't want me'.
It hurts to have to make that choice, but choosing yourself over another feels much better than the other way around. The WS is choosing themself, their feelings, thoughts, OP, whatever, over you. Perhaps the BS should extend the same courtesy.
M & H: 40 M: 5.5 T: 7.5 OW: 7/09 Bomb: 9/09 Sep: 3/10 H files 7/10
