Are you still attracted to your Ex?

[AtTheEnd?]

maynard, I'm at the same point, no longer torture/hell. I'm also curious to see where this goes next. Right now I really don't want contact with my spouse. I see her flaws, but also the good in her. I have a realistic view, but it's disappointing to see how crazy the WAS thought process can be. It's very much like dealing the maturity of a toddler, and you have to deal with the WAS in that manner (temper tantrums, crying, and everything else that goes with it).

Draw back, work on your own growth and well being. You won't be able to control anything in your spouse. Exerting energy on your spouse will only wear you down, and your attitude will suffer.