... my W was dressed somewhat provocatively in boots (which she knows are my favorites) and a short skirt. Was she trying to test me/torment me? Is she dressing this way so she can feel better about herself and possibly attrack other men? Is she acting like a teenager? I know that you can't read her mind but it just struck me as odd and made me have all of these questions.
- Was she trying to test me/torment me? Maybe - Is she dressing this way so she can feel better about herself? Yeah, probably - and possibly attract other men? Maybe, yeah probably
Yes you can't read her mind, I can't either. We can only offer opinions.
When you dress nicely, you probably dress for yourself, you might get some attention and feedback because of it but in the end you want to look good not just for yourself but also it makes you feel good around other people when you look good.
If your wife is dressing nicely or "provocatively" as you put it, there may be a ton of reasons for it. She wants to look good, she feels good when she looks good, maybe she enjoys the attention that she gets when she looks good, we all feel good about ourselves when other people notice that we look good and acknowledge. If you wife has had affairs (PA's or EA's or both) then it's possible she really enjoys the attention of other men, it boosts her self-esteem, if she has self-esteem problems to begin with, she may be addicted to this type of attention, external validation, etc.
Either way, you can't do anything about it and trying to consider each possible scenario will make you go crazy, I'm 100% sure of that. Your brain is working over time, I can tell, you must be exhausted on some days. Give yourself a break bro, you've earned it, you're allowed.
