ssmguy said: "I don't really think of that as being honest. I meant totally honest with everyone. If you are going to have an affair, or you feel tempted to have one, you should let your spouse know. If you spouse cares, they will work to fix the problem."
UM....HELLO!!!!! How can you be so contradictory. You have NOT told your wife you have had affairs, you have NOT been totally honest with her. Just because you've eluded to it and she has eluded to the fact that she'd rather not hear anything, does NOT mean you are being totally honest. What kind of world of your own creation do you live in where you can tell others to be totally honest, when you have not been totally honest with your wife NOR YOURSELF.
Ssmguy...I wish you had any clue how much damage you are doing to yourself, your wife, your kids, and anyone else you give advice to. You're a monster, there's just no other way to say it. Go ahead and keep being "honest" with yourself while you tell yourself its all good and dandy what you are doing. Meanwhile, the truth is what it is.
Little Miss...you said maybe you aren't ready for full on intimacy. That's fine! Maybe you aren't! There is nothing wrong with just having a few more flings (or even 10-20 more) until you are ready...as long as the flings aren't married. I say, play around until you *know* you are ready.
