I'm loving this thread- I know that much of this is psychology and I can understand that there are a lot of forces at work; and that it is a process.
It's funny b/c I've been in NC for almost a week now- I know that's really nothing compared to most others, but we all know how hard it was to get just one 24 hrs in...
W/ has texted a few times now, but nothing requiring a reply...I do love her very much, but I can see why NC is the best option for some sitches.
I actually feel like some of my fog is wearing off- I REALLY am more aware now of the negatives in the R pre-bomb- and someof the "want what you cant have" syndrome is wearing off as well- the sad part is like you mention above...
When I see what WAW is doing, her lies, self-deception, anger, resentments, etc-- I find it totally unattractive now...let alone the A's and 13 yo- chasing "happiness" mentality...
In know that some sitches dont work this way- but the regret has to be there...I read a thread yest by a woman D a year or so, having probs w/ OM and looking over her shoulder at EH...I do believe that will happen in most sitches.
I'm actually coming to a point where I can see this as a journey and not sheer torture/hell...I am almost excited to see what happens next...
