Bworl Thanks for the advice - seems on the money as far as I am concerned!! Been out for the last 2 nights GAL - boys tonight & next 2 days. Keeping contact business like. Having some good & bad spells but keeping to the programme! Latest development, OMW has confronted OM, showed him letter I had sent, he denied anything going on, but he was busted with her taking photos of his car outside of W house. He denied all at first, then claimed "good friends" after being showed evidence - OMW gave him ultimatum, stop all contact with W or go. He said he wanted to stay & try to fix marriage!! What tangled webs are woven by these people!! Heard nothing from W. More deep breathing, counting & staying calm called for - all advice welcome!