Take a breath CTH, it is playing for keeps, I know where you are at, and how you feel.
Don't discuss this with her, is my opinion, let the L do it. It will cost money, but since they are already involved, I think it's worth it.
They will ask for the Sun, Stars and Moon, and you're L will say, here, how about some dirt from the yard. Somewhere in between is where it will likely end up.
I don't have specifics, since I am still in the middle of this as well, but a few things to think about.
Try and focus on what you can manage, day to day stuff, don't worry yet about the future, finances, etc, as you can't predict what will happen, and suffering over this will only work against you, and I believe part of the tactic's that L's use to get what they want.
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
