Eric I am going to disagree with you on this. And it is the reason why I am recommending Maynard to file.
W is an addict who is financially unstable. Sometimes you need to break the marriage to protect a part of it. She is going to cost maynard a ton of grief if he is held financially accountable for her actions. And again I am going to repeat this. Her actions.
This is one of the purest forms of tough love. Doing what is right. He has offered unconditional love to her. She has responded by grabbing a new shovel. And she continues to dig. Reality. Maynard needs to protect himself. To grow and heal. To prepare for his future he needs to secure the present.
Her actions speak very loudly.
I have been with maynard since he joined. I offer this advice freely to him. As I know his stitch very well. I have spent many hours of my life helping him.
No offence intended my friend. ( You too newmama )
Just our opinions are different.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
Chatter - Point taken. I was not aware of the whole sitch..my only point was that he needs to be sure - that's all. If she is an addict then I would agree he should file and call it a day.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
As I mentioned I will take through the weekend- I should have done a better job w/ the NC before- it has really allowed me to sep. myself from the drama and sitch...
I appreciate all of the advice and I know that even if/when I file- I was still willing to do anything- W was not...
CB I def apprecitae the many hours you've put in for me...I'll see you soon I hope
Excuse me if I'm stupid or missed something... but she texted you "Can you call me?" That means if she wants to speak to you, she has your number.
This is just another ploy to see if you're still willing to jump through her hoops. IGNORE. If she wants to speak to you she will call. Or find another way to speak to you.
Remember I'm still new to this shitz so take what i say with a grain of salt.
I would...wait for a bit and if YOU do not want to speak to her then text her back and ask.."what's up". It may at least give you an opportunity to see what she wants to talk about.
Remember I am new to this so I would wait to see what CB says.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Just finished reading through your thread and snipped some great stuff from all of you.
I am LOL while I was reading the thread here at the end. W texts me "Call me when you get a chance. No rush." I texted "Regarding?" W "Nothing really just to talk" Me "I told you I'm here to talk whenever u want to talk. That means you dial my number and if I'm available I will answer. If you leave me a message I will get back to you at my earliest opportunity."
WTF?
I'm sorry where this has gone for you. I think you have done and amazing job from what I can tell being new to this.
Something to think about I know you can file in Florida without an attorney. Just pay for the filing fees and all the forms etc are online in your county. You don't have kids so you may even can do an uncontested D. Lawyers job is cultivate adversity and bill for it. She may be too unreasonble for this but it's worth a shot.
I am over in the MLC section and a lot of these folks here on your thread have already given me some great advice.
I know where you are with obsessing on the A. I breath it everyday. Just try to control your thoughts and take that power back for you.
I'll check in on ya. Raining where I am in the Sunshine State today.
Grit
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
Kinda pissed- just realized her move will be taking place on my B-day- Awesome!!
I have plans to play golf then dinner w/ a few friends...I'd like to have W put it off till Sun out of respect. I don't want her to be here w/ MIL by themselves nor do I want to have to deal w/ a moveout on my B-day.
At the same time- I don't want to jam them up I know what moving day is like and you just want to knock it out...
