Are you still attracted to your Ex?

[AtTheEnd?]

Yes, I believe that this is typical for the LBS. This is why most of the divorces occur. The LBS moves on, and by the time the WAS wants to return, the LBS is in another relationship or too far gone. The WAS is left with nothing more than regret. Rejection can only be tolerate for so long, and once you have detached, you will notice her flaws and the attractiveness of other women (more than normal). When you are in the middle of the whole thing, you only see the best in your wife, or at least that is what you remember (if I had only done this, she's so wonderful, etc), until you really open your eyes and see the truth, detach and ultimately move on. At least this is what I believe, not an expert by any means.