Getting his/her/your/my "needs met"

[Ken62]

I have definitely heard this from my WAW. I agree with what Puppy says also. Right now she is done with both of her EAs but it still doesn't change the fact that I don't "meet her needs" and that we are "not compatible".

My W tried to explain it like this. She would love to go to a restaurant and sit down and order a lovely meal and have it prepared for her and brought to her and she could just enjoy it. Right now she has felt that she goes to this restaurant and she orders her meal but then she has to go to the kitchen and make it and then serve herself. This is her metaphor of how her needs aren't being met.

She has definitely re-written our marital history which she denies and I have also told her that no matter what I do to ty and "meet her needs" that if SHE doesn't feel that they are being met it doesn't matter what I do. I would LOVE to work on the M and the R with her but she will have nothing to do with that and as my one daughter has said: "Mom is so needy, she expected you to read her mind and when you didn't she got mad at you"! Kid are so perseptive!

I am working on myself and GAL and trying to have a PMA while I go dark and leave the W alone in these final 3 months before the D is final.

Thanks for letting me vent,

Ken